It's almost 6 months since we got married. I typed the below post long long ago in July, but never managed to finish it. As the year 2013 is ending I need to post this before it gets trashed into the bin.
it's a month since 29/6. time really passed so quickly.
How did my 2 weeks of annual leave ended so quickly? :(
Taking leave for 2 weeks is damn shiok, even though we were too tied up in the week leading up to the big day, running errands, gowns last fitting, meeting videographer and photographers, etc.
The day before the wedding, we had a super long day..
- Woke up 6am to go fetch Isaac over.
- 安床: We got Roland's aunt and husband who is supposedly a blessed couple to come for this 'ceremony'. Basically they helped us to change the bedsheets to the new and red set that we bought. After this, I got my nephew Isaac to jump and roll on the bed, as he is 童子, supposed to bless the us with many children. Then a tray was placed on the bed, which included various stuff like charcoal, dried longan, red dates, lotus seeds etc for different meanings, and some angpows that are meant to be placed under the bed at the 4 corners. Finally we on the 2 bedside lamps that we specially bought - this is called 点灯. After this ceremony, Roland had to sleep in the living room haha.
- Went to collect my mum's IC from my house.
- Went back to Roland's house as he forgot to change his shoes.
- Sent Isaac to school.
- Went to ROM to collect our wedding cert, they were very efficient so we were out in 5 minutes.
- Went to Chinatown Point to collect Tshirts for Tooka Print.
- Went back to my house again to collect the things that we needed to move to my bro's house. As there happened to be a wake at my flat's void deck, we were not comfortable with the idea that it will clash with our wedding as the wake was unlikely to end before the wedding. I mean, it isnt sensitive to them as well, if the brothers come horning the car away right... I was quite depressed over it when I found out.. and initially my mother said it's fine to continue the usual plans.. both me and Roland didn't want to, afterall we planned so hard and long for this big day, and want to avoid any last minute things that could upset this. Luckily Mum gave in to my solution and my brother was very open to us using his house. for that, i am so grateful to him and Da-Sao for cleaning the house vigorously that night, and even buying extra fans and installed new lights for the wedding. They even offered their bed to me, but in the end I took Isaac's bed :)
- Went to collect the bridal car (Audi TTS) from Ace Drive, where we rented it from. The car is really awesome, I had to drive it out as Roland's license is less than 2/3 years. It was darn scary I tell you, because TTS is a very low car and I was afraid to scratch or damage it when crossing the road humps. Also not used to driving such an expensive car. Despite this, I managed to drive it home safely and am proud to say I drove a TTS before! :D
- Drove the car down to Di Gio to tie the wedding car decor. Took about 45 minutes, and traffic was a bitch to and fro as it was Friday evening.
my blue purple hand bouquet!
- Roland sent me home to rest around 8pm and then went to deliver Tshirts and wash his car for the wedding
In total, we travelled some 18 locations in 12 hours because we kept forgetting to bring this and that.
I was trying to fall asleep before 11pm, since I had to wake up at 330am... but I remember feeling nervous and excited.. called wenxin to chat for a while before i finally felt like i could use some sleep.
Morning wedding 29 June (our 3rd anniversary as well!)
My shoes for the day! Christian Louboutin nude heels and red bow heels from taobao. what a contrast in price LOL.
Mum and Dad veiling me.
Everything went quite smoothly I must say. Not long after I woke up, my makeup artist, Keith, arrived and started to prep my hair. Around 5am, my sister, mum and the jie-meis arrived and were busy preparing for the gatecrash. By 7am i could hear all the shouting and demanding outside, while I was waiting (perspiring under the veil) in Isaac's room.
I wanted to face-time so I can see what was happening but alas it just didnt work at that time! the jie-meis took videos and whatsapp to me instead. I was laughing while waiting..
Some dress shots that I took while waiting :) Isaac was grumpy cuz he had to wake so early. Hehe.
Finally the kiss shot when he was let into the room (which was Isaac's room).
Some of my favourite shots... i look better at this angle hahahah!
Brother shielding me with red umbrella...
and i had to throw the red fan out of the car and not look back to symbolise that I will 嫁得好... (i was feeling quite teary cuz it feels like i'm being given away and cannot even glance at my family and friends haha!)
As we finished the gatecrash on time, we had 20 minutes to spare after the tea ceremony at his house. First thing is to eat tang yuan and then the removing of veil - these black & white shots are beautiful! :)
Our Jie-Mei shot - this is after I changed into my qipao for the tea ceremony part II.
Walking to our car to go back to my brother's place for tea ceremony part II
Love this shot of us! All the brothers did very well in the jump shots! hehe. and all the sisters are so chio.
Cruising the roads in our rented Audi TTS was a dream come true. Audi cars are really stable and don't feel as light as our Honda Civic.. I was waving my bouquet along the way but it was impossible to stand up on the seat in that big poufy gown.. haha! i think my hair will just 'chui' as the wind was pretty strong.
Another of the heart-warming moments my photographer captured. Super love this pic with Isaac.
The tea ceremony at my bro's place took longer than expected as we were waiting for all the relatives to arrive and I had to change back from the cheongsam to the white gown so we were slightly late for the solemnization at 11am. When we reached Crowne Plaza Hotel, Roland went to the poolside first with the rest of our family and friends. The funny thing was that my father and I were hiding at one corner waiting to be cued by someone to march in, but my dear emcees and the hotel coordinator were waiting for each party to cue. -_- so we stood there for awhile and the guests were all silent...
But when it was finally time to walk down the aisle with my father, i was sooooo nervous i didnt know where to look. The photographers and videographer said that i kept looking down at the floor as you can see from the pictures above! (act like shy bride?) My smile was so frozen LOL... Didnt help that there were some unexpected guests (R's relatives) so i felt like i was in foreign land... but i tried to focus on people i do recognise...it does help to have your friends there to smile and encourage you! It certainly wasnt like TV dramas when the camera focuses on the bride looking intensely at the groom... and the groom beaming like an idiot. haha. it was more step-by-step-看着办 to me.
Oh and our march in song for the solemnization is 最重要的决定 by 范围其.. Ultra love for this song.. ever since i saw her MTV and wedding clips... I just knew I would use this song somewhere in my wedding. The lyrics are very touching and meaningful. Although honestly on that day all the music seemed to become background music once I started walking down... too nervous i suppose!
Sadly our JP (Mr. Lee Ka But - he's a sweet old man who donated our angpow to Children Cancer Society on our behalf) disappointed us that day with his 'performance'.. He was asking Roland:
Will you, ___Roland____ take this woman ____Valerie___ to be your wedded wife, to live together in the legal estate of matrimony? Will you love her, comfort her, honour and keep her in sickness and in health and forsaking all others, be faithful to her, so long as you both shall live?
he stumbled and forgot the lines in blue, and there was an awkward pause of 5 seconds... eventually he just continued with "be faithful to her?" (his tone sounded like a question) and paused again and then handed the mike to Roland to answer.. both me and R were like 'omg..' inside us..
Then he proceeded to ask me a similar question, but he sounded as if he couldnt remember my name. i was holding my breath and finally let it out when he remembered. This time round he did said "so long as both shall live".
After we both said "yes I will", he told us to exchange rings and before i knew it he told roland that he may now kiss the bride. i was really puzzled at this point as I remembered during the meet-up prior to the wedding, we told him we had personal vows we wanted to recite, and he mentioned this would be done before exchanging rings and kissing the bride. I had no time to react cuz Roland then kissed me.. i then turned to the JP and told him we still had our personal vows. guess what he said? "oh, then you should have done so before the kiss..." like walaoeh, we waiting for your cues leh! So eventually he passed the mike to Roland and I..
My vow to Roland
You have been most patient, forgiving and comforting to me ever since we were just friends. You are the one I trust more than myself. And today, I marry you, my best friend, the one I laugh with, live for, dream with, and love. Roland, I promise to be faithful to you, take care of you, encourage you, be patient and loving to you, and to grow old with you. I promise to always be honest with you, and share my dreams, my joys, or my sadness with you.
My dream is to have your kids, and build a warm loving home that you want to return to everyday. When we are old, and our children are grown, we will travel the world, visit the places we dream of, and call a dog our own.
You have given my past and future meaning. Thank you for choosing me to be your wife this very moment. I know I will be in good hands for the many days and years to come. I will love and cherish you through whatever life may bring us.
It was quite an intense moment for me but the JP's body language made me feel like i was too lengthy :( oh well, at least we got to say the vows. we were just disappointed as we had thought that the JP would be so familiar with the lines already having had solemnized so many weddings, or if he wasnt, would have prepared a script to ensure he doesnt slip.
The moment i said "I do!" and him putting the ring on my finger.
And the kiss <3
I like this picture... it speaks UNITY!
After the solemnization we took some shots as the pool side, and then it was time to catch the bouquet! dearest veron caught it (not like there was other contenders haha!). the photos below are so sweet!
meiho and emmy looking so happy in the background!! It's a very pretty photo of veron and me.. the flowers matched her top perfectly!! Get married soooooon lover! Be blessed with mintyvintage's bouquet. Love ya many many, and thanks for using this photo to make Christmas card for me!! yay!
Parting shots with intimates missing Jane!
And with the best jie-meis and xiong-dis we could ask for :)
A pity we didnt have more time to take individual shots, as we had to rush off for a third tea ceremony with other relatives. When that was surprisingly done within 15 minutes, I was so hungry already. We went for a quick ramen lunch at T3 and then back to hotel suite to remove makeup and rest. The suite was very big and luxurious, but now come to think of it I think i didnt take photos of it :(
Here are some photos we took in between of ourselves.
My wedding dress has a very pretty glittery (under light) tulle/mesh outer layer... though it is not the kind of dress i had envisioned myself wearing but i guess it was one of the better choices i had. Sometimes what you like may not be what suits you... all the lace gowns i wanted all looked weird on me! so A line and poufy turned out to be more suitable on my frame. I was close to selecting a mermaid one too...
Night wedding dinner
Moving on to the dinner at night... My makeup artist came around 4pm, and I was busy doing the makeup and hair while Roland and the brothers & sisters went ahead to prepare the ballroom and do last minute set-up/rehearsals. I really loved the hairdo that Keith did for me! It was so romantic and feminine! I could let it all down the back or twist it to one side. And it makes my usually thin and flat hair look voluminous!
Received lots of compliments for this hair-do as well! :) Looks like Godilocks right?
In my ombre evening dress with the hair-do.
After my makeup was done, I wore my qi-pao and went to the reception first because I wanted to spend more time with my friends who came early. Many of them were surprised to see me cuz' most brides usually only appear during the march-in for a surprise feel... but I don't find that meaningful. I rather spend that extra time (I got around 30-45 minutes!) talking to my friends and taking photos together than hiding in the room by myself - which will be more nerve wrecking too! Anyway it turned out to be a good idea cuz things weren't so rushed during the dinner and I got to spend more time with each guest. Around 8pm I went back up to change with the help of my jie-meis and leemei they all, into my white gown for the march in.
This hair-do gives a very different feel from the morning right! feels like princessy.
And random - but i like our vase with blue dye water and purple roses that i bought from Taobao and ikea to personalise the decor.
First march-in was filled with anxiety!!! It's like all eyes will be on you, so naturally I got quite nervous. When the time came again I couldn't even 'hear' the march in song - Canon in D - very clearly except for the starting 10-15secs as we were waiting for the right time to march in. I guess it could be because 1) I'm too distracted by seeing my friends and the long march in 2) the clapping covered 70% of the music 3) I'm out of this world literally in another space of happiness and disbelief. But now whenever I listen to any of my march in songs, i will still somehow be transpotted back to that magical day and smile to myself. :D
It is damn fun to have confetti all over you.
Cake cutting (fake cake lah)..
2nd March-in dress with my hair curled to the side and it looks more glam. Chose this yellow bling one with a sexy X back.... (to my horror, my photographer did not take photos of my back.. Faint!!!!) 2nd march in song was "A Thousand Years" not because I am a fan of Twilight but I like the starting part of the song...
It is more pastel yellow than the bright yellow in the above pic (with flash)... i never thought i would wear a yellow dress (again, alot of things never go our way) but it all turned out well. i still look good right!!! Hahaha buey paiseh. Roland looks good in his vampire tuxedo suit too, and the glittery bow tie added some interest to the suit. I prefer him in black as always. The white suit makes him look very pale...
2nd march-in was alot alot more relaxing - just walking in and smile smile smile... my smile looks more natural here.
Yam seng time!! my dress makes me look very tall! (and my body very short haha)
After our speeches (which suprisingly i managed to deliver without crying), we went down to give our mums flowers.. that's when i couldnt control my tears.. even till today, when i see this picture and think back to that moment, I still get tears in my eyes.. if you notice my facial expression i was controlling like mad. My parents, being them, didn't reveal any tears throughout the day, or said much but i hope in their hearts they were touched by my thank you speech, and happy that their daughter was getting married. I wouldnt be me if not for them, and my little small heart cannot contain all the gratefulness i have thus it spills out from my eyes.
A hug to my father and I mumbled "我爱你"... who probably didnt know how better to respond, but i remember he patted my arm as if telling me 'it's ok'.... i am happy that these got captured on camera, cuz' i will have these moments to cherish forever...
Moving on to less emotional moments... here's a shot after I changed into my 2nd evening dress. The ombre shades are very pretty right - perfectly suits my purple-blue theme in mind.. Love the drapes and pleats too..
With the TPJC girls 10 years on... these girls go a long long way with me!
And one with my favourite intimates girls! next intimate wedding will be Yingtian's! can't wait.
My beautiful jie-meis, Jia'en, Constance, Sis, Shuen, and Wenxin
One with the bestie! <3 Thank you for everything and anything you will do for me.
The pretty guestbook that bestie customised and personalised for me!! super love it. going to display it in my new house next year :)
JUST MARRIEDDDDD <3<3<3I'm still having post-wedding dreams though.
Last night I dreamt that the videographer didnt turn up at the wedding, and the whole event was in a mess.
Luckily in real life, the day went well and smoother than we could have asked for.
This post concludes the beautiful wedding i had. Even though there were a couple of things that didn't go the way I wished for (ie. i dont have any pics of my sexy back in the yellow evening dress, the solemnization process wasnt perfect..) i still thought that many many things went our way. And the photos turned out better than I could hope for (ie. not alot of fat faces and my makeup didnt look oily, etc). I was so thankful that day because the haze had somewhat disappeared and the weather was just perfect. no rain, nor too sunny. Heaven allowed me to have the pool side wedding I wanted to the man I dare not dream would be mine! :)
Really blessed. :) When things get tough, I will look back on this post and recall the vows and memories we created, this day